because mildly irritated acquaintances do not count
We need to discuss the enemies-to-lovers situation.
Because somewhere along the way, “enemies” started meaning “he made an annoying comment during a meeting.”
No.
I want opposing kingdoms.
Assassination plans.
Generational blood feuds.
Weapons.
Possibly an attempted murder before chapter ten.
I need to look at these people and think:
perhaps dating is not the most responsible outcome here.
If that’s your definition too, welcome.
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1. The Hurricane Wars
Thea Guanzon
Let’s establish the standard immediately.
Talasyn and Alaric are not enemies because they have incompatible personalities.
They are on opposite sides of a war.
Much better.
Talasyn has grown up fighting against the Night Empire, while Alaric represents the power she’s been fighting.
So when attraction begins showing up, there is an actual ideological and military problem attached to it.
tension: ★★★★★ /5
spice: 🌶️🌶️ /5

2. The Bridge Kingdom
Danielle L. Jensen
Lara marries Aren with the explicit intention of helping destroy his kingdom.
I feel like that qualifies.
She has been trained to infiltrate the Bridge Kingdom, uncover its weaknesses and send information back to her father.
Aren thinks he’s entering a political marriage.
Lara is effectively entering enemy territory as a spy.
tension: ★★★★★ /5
spice: 🌶️🌶️ /5

3. The Jasad Heir
Sara Hashem
Sylvia is the surviving heir of a kingdom that Nizahl destroyed.
Arin is Nizahl’s heir.
I don’t think we need HR to clarify whether there is a conflict of interest.
Sylvia has spent years hiding who she is because discovery could mean death. Then she ends up forced into a bargain with the prince representing everything she has spent her life running from.
tension: ★★★★★ /5
spice: 🌶️🌶️ /5

4. The Book of Azrael
Amber V. Nicole
Our heroine is not secretly a cinnamon roll being misunderstood by society.
Dianna is dangerous.
Liam is effectively the opposing god-king.
Their histories and allegiances place them firmly on different sides before circumstances force them into cooperation.
Also, bonus points for letting the heroine be the morally questionable one.
We support women’s wrongs here.
tension: ★★★★★ /5
spice: 🌶️🌶️🌶️ /5

5. To Kill a Kingdom
Alexandra Christo
A siren who kills princes.
A prince who kills sirens.
Nothing concerning here.
Princess Lira literally collects princes’ hearts, while Prince Elian has dedicated himself to hunting her kind.
This is YA and much lighter on spice, but the enemy premise is wonderfully literal.
Neither side is merely irritated. Their species actively hunt each other.
Thank you for respecting the assignment.
tension: ★★★★☆ /5
spice: 🌶️ /5

6. The Wrath & the Dawn
Renée Ahdieh
Shahrzad volunteers to marry Khalid because she intends to survive long enough to kill him.
Again:
excellent enemy credentials.
Khalid is responsible, as far as she knows, for the deaths of countless young women, including her best friend.
Her objective is revenge.
Then she begins discovering that the reality behind the executions is far more complicated than she understood.
tension: ★★★★☆ /5
spice: 🌶️ /5

7. These Violent Delights
Chloe Gong
Technically these two are also exes.
Which somehow makes the enemy situation worse.
Juliette and Roma are heirs to rival gangs locked in a generational blood feud controlling 1920s Shanghai.
They used to love each other.
Then betrayal happened.
Now there are guns involved.
Very relaxing.
tension: ★★★★★ /5
spice: 🌶️ /5
what counts as real enemies-to-lovers?
For me, there needs to be an obstacle bigger than “I find him arrogant.”
Give me at least one of these:
- opposing political loyalties
- active warfare
- genuine plans to kill one another
- revenge
- competing kingdoms
- a blood feud
- serious ideological conflict
- one person being directly responsible for something catastrophic in the other’s life
Otherwise we may simply be discussing annoyance-to-lovers, which is a perfectly valid trope but needs its own paperwork.
save this for the next time “enemies to lovers” turns out to mean they disagreed twice. ♡





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